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Five Must Do’s If your Nanny is driving your children

Wednesday, March 31st, 2010

At LifeWorx, we are often asked, “What are the proper steps to take if your nanny, housekeeper or child care provider drives your car?” We are also asked, “What should you do to be safe and have proper coverage?” There are many essentials to keeping your family safe when allowing your housekeeper or child care provider to drive your children. Here are our top 5 tips:

  1. Drivers License Check: If any domestic worker drives your car you must do a drivers license check. This will show you if the child care provider or nanny has any violations, points, a suspended license, or anything else that would be of concern. If there is something concerning, discuss it with the candidate. You may want to repeat such a background check every couple of years.
  2. Add the driver to your insurance policy: If background is good, then make sure this person is added as a driver to your insurance policy. Sometimes it may cost a bit more based on their driving record, but if the driving record is fairly good, there is generally not much extra cost. If you have a high deductible, such as $2000, and your nanny is not a seasoned driver, you may want to change the deductible to $500 to take care of any fender benders that sometimes occur when the nanny or child care provider is pulling out of a school parking area or a grocery store.
  3. Car reliability, Inspection and Registration: The third thing to do is to make sure that your car is in very good working order with good tires and brakes. Also, make sure your annual vehicle inspection and registrations are up to date.
  4. Establish Driving Rules with your Nanny: The fourth thing to do is to discuss what the driving rules are for the nanny or housekeeper when using the car. For example, can he/she use it over the weekend, or only in the evening. Rules include: where to park, how to keep the car well maintained, how often to get a car wash, etc.
  5. Establish Rules of the Car with Children and Driver: The fifth and final thing to ensure safety is to establish rules of the car. What can/can’t kids do in the car – snacks, music, videos and conversations that could potentially be distracting. Rules such as seat belt and children’s car seat rules must also be enforced. It always works better when the parents and the driver both set the same rules for the children. One of our housekeepers in Armonk, NY was fired because she did not make sure the children had their seat belts on when she was driving them home from their bus stop.

Having a car for nannies and au pairs to drive is often a luxury, but a necessity, and it needs to be well respected and cared for in order for everyone to be safe. LifeWorx has done 20,000 services without any injury or car accidents.

If the nanny or housekeeper drives their own car, and drives your children in this car once in a while, additional items to take care of and think about include how they will get paid for the use of their car. Most importantly, make sure you have gotten your nanny or child care provider a business insurance – the cost is a few hundred dollars, but it is well worth it to ensure that you are covered when your nanny is driving your children.

Often housekeepers and nannies are smart, they know car economics and they do not want to put miles on their car for just gas money. One mom in Dobbs Ferry, NY wanted the nanny to drive her car; about 50 miles a week, and was willing to give her the standard IRS rate of about 50 cents a mile. Unfortunately, the nanny did not understand what that means in terms of added cost and income, and refused to put miles on her car; even though this arrangement seemed like such a win-win for both parties. You, as a domestic employer, may need to be patient and take the time to explain the car math to the nanny in order to build trust with each other and have safety, security and reliability when it comes to transportation.

swine flu shots for your nanny or housekeeper

Thursday, January 14th, 2010

As a homeowner, Mother or Nanny, you are obviously concerned about contracting the swine flu. Mothers are concerned about their children since they are more vulnerable to the swine flu then many other types of flu. One of the Personal Assistants to a family in Greenwich, CT that LifeWorx talked with recently told us the whole family she worked with was down with swine flu. As soon as she heard the news, she went to the doctor and took the proper medicine. She also made sure that the other service providers including childcare, elder care and nanny sot swine flu shots.

Another client in Chappaqua, NY who has newborn twins asked for only nanny and child care candidates who have taken swine flu shots or who are wiling to get the shots. There are legal issues about swine flu screening of nannies and housekeepers. As a childcare service provider, we are open to both types of candidates. However, as a homeowner and a Mother, you have the right to ask and screen for childcare and nanny candidates who have taken the swine flu shots. Most domestic service providers including Nannies, Housekeepers, Elder care professional and chefs are all very flexible about taking the flu shots. Some other service providers such as housekeepers may not be as keen on getting the flu shots.

The best advice for homeowners is to make sure that household help including childcare, elder care and nanny service providers have had the swine flu shot. We also recommend paying for the shot, which costs around $25 or directing the household help to a local clinic that may provide free swine flu shots. Giving the child care and nanny service providers an hour of time to get the shot would be very much appreciated by your service provider.

what is the priority: simplicity vs. perfection?

Tuesday, November 17th, 2009

A client from Rowayton, CT asked “Should I get a nanny to take care of my baby and a housekeeper to take care of my house, or should there be only one person to do both childcare and cleaning?” Another client asked, “Should I get a chef for nutritious and fresh dinners and a housekeeper for our Bedford, NY home or a fairly good cook and a housekeeper, both in one?” Many clients have said that they can employ a bright person and train them and save some money or re-train a childcare, elder care or chef service provider who is very skilled and excels in a specific duty. All of these are good questions about best practices regarding child care, elder care and nannies. The answer depends on how much time you have and your priorities about your children, home, family and nutrition. You can then find a perfect solution to your exact needs if you have reasonable expectations, have time to search on your own, or have money to hire an agency to work for you. Some of LifeWorx’ clients have estates and large residences and have 3-10 staff, including child care, elder care, nanny or chef service providers working on the estate. In these cases, the competence and teamwork become the most important attribute since they have an estate manager to manage people. On your own, however, you do not want more then three people working in your home at a time. The best option would be preferably having two people working in your home. A family in Greenwich, CT is looking for both perfection and simplicity which comes at a 20% premium in cost. Such individuals with breadth of skill, great personality and flexibility are in short supply. In today’s world, cost is critical to everyone, and there is so much specific talent available. A little bit of research and networking can bring good long term household help to the family. At LifeWorx we pride ourselves in our child care; elder care and chef service providers because we are very selective and aim to make our clients lives simple so they can spend more time doing the things they love. In today’s world, research and networking can bring good long term household help to families with both skills and simplicity.

women who nurture and help me grow

Thursday, October 29th, 2009

People around us help us grow.  In my last fifteen years as a single parent I have had the fortune of many talented ladies who have cared for me and brought me lasting joy.  Helen Ansari my aerobics, zumba and yoga instructor at the Saw Mill Club in Mount Kisco, New York gave me the gift of great health.  It is hard to believe that I have been taking her exercise classes for the last 20 years.  She cares and motivates everyone to do their best, but above all she is talented at making the workout exciting. Helen is a breast cancer survivor and active with ACS.  Darya, our god sent housekeeper, was amazing at helping my family with housecleaning, cooking and childcare.  She helped us for four years.  I have been fortunate to have two massage therapists, one for five years and another, more recently, for two years.  Ali, from Cold Springs, NY massaged away all my tensions but unfortunately, three years ago she moved to Vermont.  Now Kristen from New York City heals and helps me.  She has the talent to make anyone’s body and mind soar from the depths of tensions, aches, and pains!  Terry was my dance instructor and Marcia provided executive coaching. And Adalita makes my home spic and span. She is extremely reliable and trustworthy like the sunshine in San Diego. Also, all my lady friends have taught me how to have some fun.

My late wife Candy was always nurturing our home, our son, and our family. She adapted to all the challenges of life in stride.  She taught me how to relate to people on their level and every level.

My mom taught me courage, effort, and integrity.  From as early as I can remember to the day she passed away – for all of her 85 years of life – she found ways to enjoy life.  For my mom, work was worship and family was joy.  I feel the same way.

We all have choices in life – which people to keep around us for example, to nurture, make our lives simple, and help us grow.  I am fortunate and grateful to have an amazing group of talented, caring, and nurturing people to help me.  Now I am working on giving back to all those people that need it, particularly moms.

why it is important to pay your housekeeper on time

Thursday, August 27th, 2009

iStock_000001753846XSmallMoney is as much of a commodity as one can imagine. A dollar is dollar, whether it is in your wallet, in your purse, on your desk, lying on the sidewalk or in a vault. Money is the same whether it is made of pennies or made of quarters or a mud laden one dollar bill. Money is the only part of a service or product that is a pure quantifiable transaction. As a veteran of the corporate world for over 20 years, I have a lot of experience with issues that can arise with handling money. One time, I made the mistake of not giving one of my employees the exact raise that I orally agreed to give him. I was a bit casual about the agreement because to me, money means only a small part the overall process of working that I receive so much satisfaction from. Unfortunately, not everyone else looks at work and money this way, and I received a huge mouthful from my boss about this. It turns out that the employee complained to my boss that he had not been paid on time. I will never forget that moment! It was embarrassing, and made me realize how important it is to keep the exact commitment you agree upon regarding any money issues in the work place.

In the nanny world, paying your housekeeper on time is extremely important. The entire dynamic of your relationship with your housekeeper can be thrown off if you forget to pay your housekeeper, or if you do not keep your commitment to them. While this may seem trivial to some, paying funds on time is very important to most individuals, especially to nannies and housekeepers. This is one exchange with your housekeeper that actually needs the least amount of energy and effort. If you do it right, you will in turn bring consistency and reliability in your relationship with your housekeeper.

Here are 4 tips to increase an efficient money management relationship with your housekeeper

  1. Always pay your housekeeper on time
  2. Always pay your housekeeper the exact amount that you agreed upon
  3. Always pay your housekeeper with respect
  4. Pay your housekeeper without being asked to pay

In the Corporate world, we often take this for granted as many of Americans have opted for “direct deposit.” Imagine if every time you were due to be paid your employer “forgot” or said “I will pay you next week.” You would imagine that this would create a certain level of resentment, and your work would most likely be affected. In order to maintain a healthy level of respect with your housekeeper, keep these money management tips in mind. They will go a long way and create a mutually beneficial relationship for both parties involved.

For housekeepers who are on the receiving end, it is important to receive money with gratitude. Housekeepers should feel free to share any issue regarding the check amount if the amount does not seem correct, or if it differs from the amount agreed upon. Angela, a LifeWorx nanny from Stamford, CT, says that on Fridays her boss routinely forgets to go to the bank and promises to pay her on the following Monday. What a way to put a damper in the otherwise perfectly healthy working relationship with your housekeeper!

As the CEO of LifeWorx, I believe fair pay at a scheduled time is an essential part of the working agreement with your housekeeper. This will ensure that no one will steal your help. Remember to give your housekeeper respect, fair pay and a consistent workload. Also, be very careful about paying in advance, as this may create future problems with your housekeeper’s personal money management system. Set a standard and communicate with your housekeeper and nanny about benefits, pay, holidays, pay for extra work and tipping. All of these money management tips will help you create a healthy working relationship with your housekeeper, and free up your time to spend more time doing the things you love, rather then worry about pay issues during your spare time.

our first family

Tuesday, August 18th, 2009

Our First Family …. The first family that LifeWorx worked with is composed of 3 brothers and sisters, and they are a group of one of the nicest people we have ever serviced. We provide an assortment of services for all of the family members, and they call us whenever they need anything from LifeWorx. The family has multiple residences in New York City, Lower Westchester and the Hamptons. Last week, their cousin called up requesting one of our personal chefs.

How did LifeWorx ever get this much trust and respect? I believe we have accumulated this trust and respect over time due to the quality, transparency and strength of the relationship. The first time we ever sent our price sheet to our clients, we worried about our competition. To combat this fear, six months ago, we put all of our pricing on the LifeWorx website so that every prospect knows that our prices are standard whether they have a two bedroom condominium or 20,000 sq feet luxury estate in Greenwich, CT. One of my utmost personal passions is transparency of information in the services we provide. When you go to a dry cleaner, a hairdresser, a bank or an accountant, all of these places would receive more trust from prospects if they displayed their prices openly and honestly, ultimately removing the guessing game and receiving a higher bill after the services were completed. There should no longer be a guessing game when it comes to compensation, which is why we have chosen to display all of our service prices very openly.

As for the first family we work with, I continue to get joy out of talking to any one of the family members, because they respect LifeWorx and truly appreciate what we do for them. When their housekeeper goes on vacation, we find them the best temporary fill-in, even if it is just for a week. No one has to worry about laundry, healthy meals and toddler care arrangements. LifeWorx is able to take care of them so that they can go away and come home to a stress free environment.

feedback, the lifeblood of service

Tuesday, August 11th, 2009

Anyone working in your home is counting on you to give feedback, a sense of belonging, and respect. As a former veteran of the corporate business world for 20 years, I have learned that working in Corporate America is very different than working with someone at home. Anyone I was working for or who worked for me had plenty of peers, colleagues, mentors and advisors. There were always group meetings, processes and systems to help us do our job well. All tools and techniques were available at our disposal to help us efficiently do what needed to be done. The entire organization effectively integrated our positions, and nurtured us as employees.

In the nanny world, everything operates very differently, and when someone works for you at your home it entirely revolves around you. Nannies, homemakers, child care professionals, chefs, and personal assistants look to you for support, feedback, advice and a sense of belonging. Even if they are fully experienced, professional and competent to do the job, these child care and elder care professionals need a personal or social connection to feel that they are doing a good job, and to personally feel good. This is an example of a basic human need which is often overlooked in the personal assistant world.

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As a parent and homeowner, I have sat down and had a glass of wine with my housekeeper from New Rochelle, NY, and shared stories about her children, despite her having poor language skills. My housekeeper will jump through hoops for me, not because I pay her an outrageous compensation, but because of the respect and warmth I offer to her. All of the service providers that come to the LifeWorx office receive a warm welcome, a cup of coffee and a chance to sit down and chat. Every professional we hire is the best available in their selective field, and we want to make sure they know it and receive positive praise and attention from us. We want them to know it, feel it, and live it.

However, getting too involved with the help in your home may take you down a path that is beyond your comfort zone. Fifteen years ago, my amazing housekeeper had issues about her daughter, ex-husband, church life and career. She would share these stories with me; even after I came home from a long day of work and wanted to relax. I would listen and make a few comments, but I never once told her that I do not have time to hear her share her life experiences with me. Sometimes her daughter would even come along to my house and spend time with us in my house. All of this was a small yet essential part of a creating a good home environment for the housekeeper. As a result of listening to my housekeeper share what was going on in her life, she was ultimately a better and more productive worker. Because I was so receptive to her, she was more receptive to hearing about duties and pending projects in the house that needed to be completed. A little act of kindness goes a long way, especially when we remember to treat others as we would like to be treated.

lifecycle cost

Wednesday, July 29th, 2009

Our country is back in the saving mode. Anytime we purchase something, a product or service, it makes a lot of sense to look at all the costs that are incurred and assess the value we receive. Last week, I was at a sidewalk sale in New Canaan, CT. There were silk shirts for 50% off, reduced from $80, to $40… A steal. I was not totally thrilled with the color, but it looked like a good bargain. I started to reflect on how often I will use it and would I be excited to wear it often. The shirt would need to be sent to dry cleaning at $8/dry cleaning; I will probably spend $120 for 15 dry cleanings. Hence, the total cost of buying and using the shirt would be $ 160; still $40 less than the original cost of $200. Not a huge bargain though. If the product or service does not bring the value it is worth, the initial bargain gets washed away. No pun intended. The same logic applies to household help; nanny, babysitter, elder care provider, Chef or a housekeeper. Most families will spend about $30,000 to $50,000 for a full time household employee. Over 5 years these costs add up to $150,000 – $250,000, a significant cost, but an essential need for busy professionals and moms. Each individual service provider is different, and families need to make sure that the person working for you in your home is the best you can find for the duties, skills, personality and character. It takes effort to find this right person and any effort that you put in upfront will bring you years of rewards in terms of quality of life for your child, family and peace at home. In light of the implications, one should plan to spend about 80 hours if you are going to advertise and recruit a person yourself; 40 hours, if you are going to use your network and 10 hours; if you are planning to use a reputable agency. There is a right combination of pocket cost and time commitment choice for each family.

my new party dress

Tuesday, July 7th, 2009

iStock_000000960922XSmallA client from Chappaqua, for whom we did weekly housekeeping, calls frantically on a Saturday morning at 8.15 AM to say that the new dress she had brought a day earlier is missing. She hung the dress behind the door, and now, the hanger is there but no dress. She turned the whole house upside down and couldn’t find it. She wondered and stressed about it. She looked in the laundry, closets and asked her husband. Hence, she came to the conclusion that the housekeeper had stolen it. I assured her that Nora, a LifeWorx housekeeper has never done anything like this; but that we would investigate. I was very stressed since our system is supposed to protect clients from such bad experiences. We promised the client that we would pay for the dress. Nora is a large woman and the client’s dress was size 4, petite. We reviewed Nora’s file in the office and her background check reports, but there was no smoking gun. We left a message with the housekeeper and wondered… How could this be? Our staff is trustworthy to be given house keys, car keys, kids, grandma and credit card and we assure that nothing will go wrong. Two hours later that morning, we get a call back from the client, with a sense of embarrassment and relief… that the dress was in her daughter’s room. Her teenage daughter had tried on mom’s new party dress and left it on the floor on the far side of her bed! How cute, but also how annoying! Our instincts often lead us to assume… a crime has been done, because that is what protects us from such things and makes us vigilant. How can we avoid playing the old videos of past poor (crime) experiences when the peace of mind and calm may be around us? All we can do is to find and share positive experiences to our clients and hope that, “drop by drop the ocean will get full.”